Abusive Behavior Signs

Abuse need not be just physical. It can be emotional as well as psychological. Whatever the means of inflicting pain, the fact is that abusive behavior and living in an abusive relationship can leave a scar that may remain etched in one's psyche, for years to come. However, there are certain abusive behavior signs that need to be read on time to prevent oneself from getting emotionally involved with an abusive individual and also to help him deal with this negative aspect of his character.

How to Identify Abusive Behavior?

Quick On the Move: It all seems perfect. The man you love did not take time in proposing you. But does it feel too quick? In case your intuition tells you that something is not right, don't just dismiss it. If you feel that you are being pushed into the relationship think twice before taking that final step. The need for emotional fulfillment is urgent and desperate in abusive individuals. This hurry on your partner's side can be assumed as one of the signs of abusive behavior.

Jealousy: Does he keep asking you where you had gone or with whom you had been? Does he keep calling you that makes you feel that he is keeping a check on you? Well initially this might feel like a lot of attention. But when this adorable habit of his crosses the limit and starts suffocating you, you should read this as jealousy and possessiveness, one of the dominant abusive men signs.

Control Freak: Abusive individuals have a very strong controlling nature. This aspect of their character is deftly hidden in concern for you, be it your health - physical or mental, finances or your relationships with others. At a later point of the relationship his say would spill on to the decisions you take as well.

Cruelty and Violence: Abusive behavior signs include cruelty towards others, specially who are weaker than oneself. Such an individual would be cold to child's cries and is capable of screaming or even hitting a two year old for bedwetting. They are very harsh as far as punishing animals is concerned and are known to cause physical harm to their pets.

Physical Abuse: Most women in abusive relationships have heart wrenching stories of being physically abused by their partners. While the man metes out such a treatment, he absolutely shows no remorse and refuses to listen to any reason or logic.

Emotional Abuse: The signs clearly include emotional abuse of the other partner. Emotional abuse in relationships become when abusive individual starts ignoring the feelings of the other. He calls his partners names like ugly or fat that can be a derogatory remark about the victim's physical appearance or may be a scathing comment on small mistakes that she commits. What is worse is that the humiliation is not limited within the four walls of the house. This abuse continues in public as well.

Verbal Abuse: An abusive person may call his partner names that would dent her confidence and make her develop an inferiority complex. But besides emotionally abusing his partner, an abusive man also subjects her to verbal abuse. Yelling, calling names and even waking his partner up from sleep to criticize her, are all verbal abuse signs.

Great Expectations: Having unrealistic expectations is another prominent abusive behavior sign. This he would manifest by expecting his partner to be perfect in everything, not as per social protocols but according to his own standards that are set so high that they are absolutely impossible to meet.

Use of Force: Playful or Otherwise One of the signs of abusive behavior is the use of force and violence. This might happen over an argument or may also be playfully disguised in sexual acts. One common form of recognizing playful use of force is when an abusive man asks his partner to enact sexual fantasies which involves physical harm like strangulating the woman. Such a man would demand sexual gratification even when his partner is sick or tired. He may also use anger or sulk to manipulate her into compliance.

Signs That you are in an Abusive Relationship

In case you still have doubts of whether you are in an abusive relationship, then see if you have similar feelings that are listed below which are sure signs that one's partner is an abusive individual:

• You live in constant fear of your partner.
• It feels impossible to do anything right in your partner's opinion.
• You have this increasing feeling of being at fault always.
• You start justifying being ill treated or hurt.
• You can't think right and emotionally you feel blank.

Child abuse, or witnessing abuse of the mother or a sibling is believed to be some causes of abusive behavior. But this reason definitely does not justify an individual putting up with his/her partner's abusive behavior. For those who are wondering how to deal with such behavior, there is a truth that they need to understand, and that is - people with abusive behavior are the only ones who can help themselves. It is only through therapy or counseling that they can check their abusive behavior, provided they volunteer to undergo such counseling in the first place. Even if they do mend their ways through these therapies, there is a strong chance that they would exhibit their abusive or aggressive behavior signs again.

So the question, 'how to deal with abusive behavior', still remains. The best way to save the hurt caused to you and the ones who love you is to be able to read the signs of abusive behavior early in a relationship. In case you can help an individual, try to talk to him to go for therapy. If he doesn't listen, then you have no other option than to just move on!