Abandonment Issues Symptoms

Fear of being lonely or abandonment is something we all develop at some point or the other. However, its intensity does varies from person to person, with some overcoming their fear and moving on with their life while others holding on to this fear of abandonment finding difficulty leading a normal life. Undoubtedly, losing someone close to you or getting turned down by one you love can result in unbearable pain and disappointment in your heart which can eventually lead to abandonment issues that can result in serious mental, psychological as well as physical complications.

According to some experts, abandonment issues which are a kind of psychological disorder, usually begin very early in life or during childhood wherein the child either loses one or both of his/her parents or even though the child is living with the parents, he/she doesn't get emotional support, love, guidance and care from the parents. Such child develops a fear of being alone with no one around to love and take care.

Likewise, another event that can trigger the fear of abandonment or raise abandonment issues in a person's life is a teenage breakup. Especially people who are extremely sensitive or emotional are unable to handle breakup or rejection and start having abandonment issues in relationships. However, to overcome or fight this fear of being alone or abandoned one has to first understand the abandonment issues symptoms.

Below given are some of the common symptoms of abandonment issues that can be seen in people battling this disorder. These abandonment issues symptoms reflects the unsteady or disturbed mental state of the person living with the fear of abandonment.

Clinging: One of the prominent symptom observed in people suffering fear of abandonment is reaching out or clinging to person whom the sufferer is in relationship with. Since these people live with a fear of being left alone they tend to hold on to the person, which at times drive them away from the one they love.

Dreading: Dreading, fearing or panicking over small indiscretions or issues is another common abandonment issues symptom. The sufferer tends to get restless or upset if the person he/she cling to fails to meet or talk or reply to their message or call.

Threatening Self Harm: Next symptom which can be seen in most sufferers is emotional blackmailing. Such people tend to threaten the one they cling to by saying something like 'i'll end my life if you leave me'. Hence, these people can end up showing such compulsive behavior, like threatening self harm.

Being Self Complacent: Sometimes people suffering from this psychic disorder become extremely complacent, i.e. being uncritically satisfied with oneself or one's actions, and exhibiting unusual and extreme behavior like doing the most disgusting household chores or sexual activity which the other person might not be interested in.

Breaking Up: It is strange but people with the fear of abandonment end up their relation, thinking that they may get rejected again or whatever good is happening is just a matter of time despite how well their relationship is going.

Excessive Reassurance: You may notice such people often asking the one they cling to that 'do you love me?' Hence, these people need constant reassurance of love and affection from their partners.

Low Self Esteem: Insecurity or doubts regarding their relationship develop a low self esteem or a weakened sense of self worth in people having the fear of abandonment in relationships which may eventually lead to depression.

It may sound simple, but overcoming the fear of abandonment is not an easy task to do and requires immense emotional support. The first step in how to deal with abandonment issues is to help the person understand the effects of these symptoms, along with some professional assistance that will help the sufferer overcome his fear and boost his inner confidence. Spending time, creating a more self sufficient life, talking and assuring the person that his life is surrounded by people who truly love and care can somewhere help the person in overcoming the fear of being alone or abandoned.