A Step by Step Guide to Getting Back Your Ex Girlfriend

Right after your ex breaks up with you, time is critical. Move too slowly and you could lose her forever. Make the wrong moves and you could lose her respect - as well as any chance you might've had at getting her back. The guide below details some of the more important steps to winning back your girlfriend. Adhere to them closely, and you'll greatly improve your chances of making her want you back.

Step 1: Accept The Break Up - Immediately after she dumps you, your ex is going to feel weirded out and awkward around you. That's because she knows you still want her, and she's trying to avoid leading you on in any way. This is why it's important, both for her and for your own benefit, that you accept the situation of your break up. No drama, no denial... understand fully that your relationship is over, and that there's no going back to fix it. Before you can build a new relationship with your ex, you'll need to realize that your current one is finished.

Step 2: Drop Out of Sight - In the days and even weeks after she breaks up with you, your ex girlfriend is going to be looking to see how you're doing. It's not that she's concerned for you (although she might act like she is), what she's really looking for is to see you upset and mournful of the relationship. This lets her know that you really needed her. It also boosts her ego, and re-enforces her decision to end things. This is why it's crucial for you to cease all contact with your ex immediately after the break up. No phone calls, no emails, no text-messages or anything like that. By giving her nothing but silence after she broke up with you, you're denying her the comfort she'd get from seeing you upset. And by not being around, you're also giving your ex the chance to miss you.

Step 3: Take Away Her Safety Net - One of the most challenging things to do after a break up is go without any type of contact with your ex. In today's modern age of emails and text-messages, it's very easy for one or both of you to keep in touch. Knowing that you're still there lets your ex-girlfriend feel secure. She's got a safety net of sorts to fall back on, meaning she can date you again if she feels like reversing the break up. Many girls even do this by giving you the "let's be friends" speech, which is really just designed to keep you hanging around. You think she needs more friends? Not likely. Cut away her safety net and put her out of her comfort zone by not being around for her. It's the only way to get her back.

Step 4: Have a Great Time Without Her - When your ex can't reach you by normal means, she'll put some feelers out - maybe even in the form of her own friends. She'll want to know where you are and what you're doing, which is why it's vital that you're out there having fun. By laughing it up and having a great time with friends, you're doing the exact opposite of what your ex girlfriend expects. Seeing this will shatter any confidence she had in the break up. Suddenly you don't seem to be missing her at all, and you look like you might even be better off without her. She'll start wondering if maybe she needs you more than you need her. Moreover, she'll start thinking that it's only a matter of time before you meet someone else. You're forcing your ex girlfriend's hand here, and if there's any love left for you in her heart? She's going to want you back. And quickly, too.

Step 5: Re-Establish Contact With Your Ex - If you've followed the above four steps pretty closely, chances are your ex is about to start chasing you. This is fantastic, especially considering your ultimate goal is to get back your ex-girlfriend. But the tricky part comes next: contacting your ex. Whether she initiates contact or you do, this needs to be done very carefully. You want to give her enough of a green light to show interest, but you don't want to tip your hand completely.

Taking it slow and keeping things casual is always the best course of action here, and you'll need to be very careful with the words you choose when talking to your ex. Keep your initial contact very brief, and above anything else avoid talking about the break up. A good rule is to tell her you're about to leave to go out somewhere: this allows you to cut short this first conversation, but it also gives you the option to set up a time and a place to talk some more. For example, lunch or coffee. A casual, innocent meeting on neutral ground. This will be a reunion date of sorts.

These are just the initial steps to winning back your girlfriend. For a complete, detailed guide on how to make your ex want you back, be sure to visit How To Get Back An Ex Girlfriend.