5 Common Signs That Your Inner Little Girl is Running the Show

Do you give away your personal power? Do you play little so someone else can feel big? Has a friend ever told you that you have a little girl voice in some situations? Do you give gifts you can’t afford? Buy stuff you don’t need?

Well... it’s your Inner Little Girl again.

Your task of growing up was to begin your authentic experience with the universe and develop self-confidence. As a grown woman, the Holy Grail is owning your full power and easily sharing who you are with the world.

You will know that something is amiss, if you identify with the following 5 common signs that your inner little girl is running the show.

• Voice
  Do you use a little girl voice when you are either asking for something or stating your opinion? Little girls often get what they want by being coy or by projecting submissive body language. Ask a friend for feedback or pay attention to your voice, the next time you are negotiating something with an authority figure.
• Do you give away your power?
  Do you automatically defer to someone else’s wants? Are you the one who sits quietly and let's others make decisions even when you have a worthy opinion? Little girls often allow themselves to feel little, so that another can feel big. Pay attention to your tendencies, the next time you are at a dinner party. How entitled do you feel to state your opinion, even when it differs from others? Practice using your grownup voice in a variety of situations.
• Are you constantly asking for advice?
  Do you doubt your ability to make wise decisions? Do you seek out and defer to someone else’s opinion, even when you know what you want to do? Little girls often ask for advice from perceived authority figures because they don’t trust their instincts. Practice not asking for advice. Learn to seek your own counsel.
• Do you give gifts (time, energy, favors etc.) you can’t afford?
  Is your over the top generosity motivated by a need to feel valued? Little girls often give away their favorite things because they think they are supposed to. Pay attention to the motivation behind your generosity. Strive for balance in your sense of give and take.
• Do you have unrealistic needs for stuff (toys)?
  Do you absolutely need to have all the latest gadgets, fashions etc. Do you struggle with delayed gratification? That’s a little girl thing.

Spend some time thinking about your sense of need and attachment to ‘stuff’.

If you identify with this list, don’t worry... everyone has inner work to do... It’s a deeply rewarding experience. Allow your Inner Little Girl to develop and mature. Take this wonderful pilgrimage to the richness of being a woman in her full power. Namaste